One of my favorite psychology ideas comes from the poker literature – specifically Mike Caro’s “threshold of misery”. Mike’s point, paraphrased, is that there’s a difference between how bad a situation is objectively and how bad people feel about their miserable circumstances. Sure, as a situation gets worse, we feel worse. But eventually we hit a point where they feel about as shitty as is possible. Analytically speaking the situation can get worse, but there’s only so bad you can feel about it. That boundary is the threshold of misery.
Mike’s point was that people make stupid decisions around the threshold because the psychological risk/reward ratio is different from the real one. If your dog just died, you don’t really care if you get a traffic ticket on the way home from the vet. The dog’s still dead. But rationally speaking you should care – that ticket will still cost you $237 or whatever. In poker the manifestation was that players who had just taken a huge loss would subsequently make stupid bets in an ill-fated chance to get even. This was of course totally destructive from a monetary point of view, but actually “correct” psychologically – if they won and got back to even, they felt better. If they lost, they couldn’t feel any worse. Think of it as a psychological call option on their results 🙂
As a poker player, it’s basically impossible to avoid sometimes falling into this state when the cards break bad, and when it happens your bankroll is dependent on doing one thing and fast: quitting the game. Just go home and come back tomorrow. Of course, doing this is dependent on recognizing the problem in the first place, which is not so easy since you’re in a bad mental spot.
Trading is analogous on this point. I’d wager there are MANY short term traders who are break-even or better on their first trades of the day, but massive losers after that if the first trade goes bad. Again, the remedy is simple: quit for the day. And in order to do that, you need to recognize there’s a problem. One of the trading blogs I sometimes read (Andrew Menaker) recently posted an interesting question you can ask yourself to help determine that:
How much of what I’m doing or contemplating of doing right now is a response to my P&L?
It’s a simple question, but then we don’t really need complexity here. What we need is an anecdote to a common and costly problem. And that question seems like a good start. If the answer is “This is a chance to get even” then quit for the day.
Although I don’t hold the IP rights to that question LOL, it would be nice if you referenced me in your use of it. Unless of course, my post had no influence on your post.
My intention wasn’t to slight you – the question itself was a link. But I’ve added clearer credit.
sorry, I’m just a little oversensitive because others have been using my stuff and calling it their own.
My apologies to you1
One of the areas in playing poker that I’ve found beneficial is to go through a specific ritual before I even look at the cards. It could be anything, but the gist of it is a couple meaningless steps (wiggle the toes, turn to the right, knock on the felt, etc).
If I’m tilting, or playing emotionally for whatever reason, I find these little steps are the first to be abandoned. They have proven, in my experience, to be far better cues to my emotional state than using reason.
Best,
Flux
(ps Nice to see you back!)
Good to be back!
The idea of rituals is an interesting one, and one I have mixed opinions about. I’ll have to think about it.